Ever since I have expressed my thought about how dangerous marriage is for men today, the Humaar team is behind me to publish my story. Not sure if anyone of you bother to read.
I was approximately 35 years of age, never married and was looking for a suitable match until sometime ago when I found that marriage in India is a death trap for men. You know these MRAs have blocked my mind from marriages completely.
I wanted to get married and searched for a lot of girls. Since online websites are easy way to search these girls, I enrolled myself in all possible sites in search of my soulmate.
So I started looking for girls younger to me.
But I could not finalize on non working girl as she would take lifelong alimony simply on marriage with me. I didn’t want to be a slave to anyone like that.
So I decided I will marry a working lady, but I –
Could not finalize a doctor or medical professional because she could poison me to death and snatch my property.
Could not date a lawyer or similar professional as she would always threaten to file false cases and make my life miserable.
Could not marry a business woman as all her debts would come on my shoulder without her being responsible for anything.
Could not marry a teacher, fearing she would only give lecture about characteristics of good husbands.
Could not think of dating IT professionals because she would release her job frustration on their husbands.
I kept myself far away from beauticians or similar professionals as even if their character were good they would end up spending my money for their own beauty treatments. I was also worried how beautiful they would really look without make-up, knowing fully well that recently a man had to file for divorce after he saw his wife without make-up.
When I have exhausted all my options with working women I thought I will marry a social worker. That was the time I saw a debate on TV where some social workers were having a debate on marriage law amendment bill or IRBM. All of them were divorcees and busy criminalizing their husbands and others’ husbands too in a big way. I realized that marrying a social worker would only bring disaster in my life.
Finally I thought I would marry a non working, average to simple looking girl. Then the story of Rohtak Sisters came to my notice. These girls demanded that they were molested 2000 times on roads. When I saw their interview on TV, I decided that there is no point getting false cases from simple looking non working criminal girls.
Marrying divorcees were already ruled out by my MRA mentors. So I thought I will marry a widow.
Initially, my family was not ready to accept the idea of me marrying a widow. A never married perfectly healthy man marrying a widow who had sex earlier, is probably considered to be impure and hence this objection. But I went ahead to find a match who had suffered unfortunate demise of her husband.
But then the statistics of husband suicide came to my notice and some MRAs told me that these widows actually could have murdered their husbands. Since my marriage possibility was vanishing fast, I tried to find the widow who wouldn’t have killed her husband.
I found widows mostly with a kid or two. So other than marrying an impure girl, I was now forced to consider adopting someone else’s child and agree to pay alimony for both of them for their life. Finally, I tried to look for someone who didn’t have a child but whose husband died a natural death. I met several women, one said, her husband one day died of vomiting blood and internal organ failure. Another said, her husband died of car accident, someone else said her husband has slipped off the rooftop while repairing something.
MRAs have poisoned my brain to such an extent that in every above case I found that the woman could have killed her husband with impunity. Some MRAs said, look for widows who lives with their in-laws and whose husband died in battleground.
I have found one such girl from a remote village in Bihar. Her in-laws were in fact marrying her off and she was great soul whose husband died in battleground and she gave the money received from Indian Army to her in-laws. When I visited her place I found her in-laws to be very rich and having another unmarried son. Immediately I thought that probably her in –laws wanted to reduce the share in their property so they were marrying their DIL off. After her marriage she would lose her right in their property. If they really loved their daughter-in-law, why they didn’t ask her to marry their younger son? The moment I thought of that I realized she indeed could have been a not so good girl whom the in-laws wanted to disassociate with.
Today, I am 42 years of age and running out of time to get married ever. Looks like if I embrace the best possible choice available to me now, I need to wait for false cases in an interior Bihar village.
Well, my mind is currently not working. These MRAs have really screwed my mind.